I don’t like using the terms “real” and “unreal.” Is a mirage real or unreal? I bet I would get conflicting answers if I asked many people. When a magician pulls a rabbit out of a hat, was it real or unreal? Again, I bet I would get conflicting answers. So I am not sure what you mean when you ask about “real” or “unreal”.
We do have a unique sense of self. Much of it is bound by recurring thought, memory, the limited and localized experience of the sense organs, and a sense of contraction within the body. Continue reading Is our unique sense of self unreal and only the universal is real?
You don’t have to realize the Self…you are the Self regardless. The Self is what you have always been, is, and will be. So really, what you might realize is that you are not the body/mind…this fictitious “me”. You never realize the Self. In the previous sentence, you can plainly see that “you” is the subject and “the Self” is the object and “realize” is the verb that connects the two. This never occurs. The Self is not an object…the Self is the subject. Continue reading Why do I even have to realize the Self?
I would immediately ask, “where are you looking?” And then follow that up with, “what is looking?”
Looking anywhere or anywhen else than here and now would be pointless. The Self is here in this very moment. The whole idea of seeking means to look somewhere else and find in the future. When you seek your keys, you look for it everywhere but where you are. You wouldn’t think to see if they are in your pocket. When you seek your keys, you expect to find them in the future…but not now. In this way, seeking is an egoic way of delaying finding…or more accurately, realizing what-is right here and right now. Continue reading What advice would you give someone seeking the Self?
To accept and not identify with suffering means just suffering and being OK with it. While this might dull the hurting and make it bearable, why suffer at all? This question comes from the standpoint of someone who still suffers. My question is why suffer at all? Suffering is optional…because we do it to ourselves. It is mentally created and if we stop creating it, we cease suffering. Continue reading Isn’t it enough to accept and not to identify with suffering?
If you want seeking to cease, then don’t focus on the seeking. The seeking is just the greenery, and so go to the root. Inquire into the “me” that is seeking…the “me” who wants to stop seeking. What is this “me”? Continue reading How do we stop seeking?
There is no such thing as “the Witness”. There is only awareness. There is seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting, and smelling. There is no seer, no hearer, no feeler, no taster, and no smeller. At best, you might say there is witnessing, but there is no witness.
Saying you are the witness is a subtle way for the ego to sneak in through the back door. The ego says, “I am the witness of my thoughts, feelings, experiences, etc.” This is true…for the ego. What you really are is “awareness-ing”…in which there is thinking, feeling, experiencing, etc. There is no noun. To use a noun – as in ‘I am a witness’ – is a way to have an object to identify with. In reality, you are the witnessing itself without a who/witness. Continue reading Should I just stay as the Witness? The Self is the Witness…right?
Don’t “try” not to identify…it is not a matter of trying not to identify. In asking this, you are admitting you are already identified…and so you must accept this – not resist it. Instead you need to clearly see you are not what you are identifying with…then you automatically cease identifying with it. Only through delving into the identification, seeing it thoroughly, and understanding it can you realize the error in identifying with it and ever believing it was who you are.
The focus is not on “trying not to identify” but to clearly see and understand. Ignorance only continues when uninvestigated. So I am saying investigate the identification thoroughly. Do this and you will find you no longer identify with whatever it is and you know exactly why it was in error to believe you were it. I don’t want to create a practice of “trying not to identify”, so I am attempting to be very clear that you need to cease trying to do anything about it and just look at it deeply. With understanding, things change on their own. We see through the illusion and we cease to be fooled by it any longer. Continue reading Should I try not to identify myself with any of the roles that I play?