How can one be happy in life even when they didn’t get what they want?

Even if you get what you want, you won’t be happy.

If it was a car, a job, a spouse, or whatever…you will fear and worry about losing what you got and so you will never truly be happy even when you get it. There will always be the anxiety of “what if I lose it?”  Happiness does not come from getting the things you want. Continue reading How can one be happy in life even when they didn’t get what they want?

How do we break the habit of excessive thinking?

By not paying thought any mind and instead being 100% devoted to the experience of now.  By not fretting about the past, nor worrying about the future too much, and being fully conscious of now.  By accepting the present moment as it is for as long as it is…neither clinging nor repelling what (by its very nature) changes. Continue reading How do we break the habit of excessive thinking?

What advice would you give someone seeking the Self?

I would immediately ask, “where are you looking?”  And then follow that up with, “what is looking?”

Looking anywhere or anywhen else than here and now would be pointless.  The Self is here in this very moment.  The whole idea of seeking means to look somewhere else and find in the future.  When you seek your keys, you look for it everywhere but where you are.  You wouldn’t think to see if they are in your pocket.  When you seek your keys, you expect to find them in the future…but not now.  In this way, seeking is an egoic way of delaying finding…or more accurately, realizing what-is right here and right now. Continue reading What advice would you give someone seeking the Self?

What do you mean there is no time but Now?

The past is mental accumulated content. The future is mental imagination.

If there was no thought, now is the only time. “Now” implies other times that are not now, but for lack of better word there is only the timeless “now.” Time is purely a mental construct and a story we tell ourselves based on perceived motion (particularly repeating patterns) and memory/future imaginations. For example, let’s say I see a cat walking. I remember the cat being there a minute ago, but now it is here, and at the rate it is walking in its current direction – it will be there in a minute. This is all in the mind. There is simply a cat walking…now. Mentally we tell a story about where it has been and where it will be. Continue reading What do you mean there is no time but Now?

What do you mean when you say “be present”?

To be present means to cease doing things that take your awareness away from now.  If you did nothing at all, you would automatically be present.  We are present, because our bodies are in the present and our experience is of the present.  There is no when or where else we can truly be than here and now.

And yet, mentally we do things that pull our awareness from the experience of now into imaging some future and digging up the past.  If we are future seeking, we turn the present moment into a stepping stone.  If we are past dwelling, we similarly turn the present moment into something less important.  The past and future, for many, is an entertainment we use to distract ourselves from the present.  To be present…the here and now must be the priority. Continue reading What do you mean when you say “be present”?