To accept and not identify with suffering means just suffering and being OK with it. While this might dull the hurting and make it bearable, why suffer at all? This question comes from the standpoint of someone who still suffers. My question is why suffer at all? Suffering is optional…because we do it to ourselves. It is mentally created and if we stop creating it, we cease suffering. Continue reading Isn’t it enough to accept and not to identify with suffering?
Not at all. It is not about should or shouldn’t. However, if there was a realization and seeing through the illusory “I” and the delusion of attachment falls away, then “you” might not be attached to how things turn out. If you understood how changeable “fortune” can be, then you may not be attached to how things work out or label it as good or bad. It is not about should or shouldn’t, it is about understanding and realization. Continue reading Are you saying that I shouldn’t really care about how things work out?
None. No importance what so ever. The ego is what is looking for “shoulds” and “should nots” and rank by importance and trying to do something (like – not being attached).
It is true that the enlightened are not attached to things and people. When there is a seeing through the illusion of “me”, the illusion of attachment also falls away as it is founded upon an illusory “me”. However, there is no such thing as “the importance of not being attached”. There is no need to try to not be attached. In fact, the enlightened don’t really think about attachment or detachment. Continue reading What is the importance of not being attached to things and people?
Who is this “I” that will become selfish and who are the “others”? This question comes from an egocentric mind that is trying to grasp concepts it encounters. The enlightened are not attached to people, places, things, etc. So the ego incorrectly concludes this would mean selfishness and not caring about others.
The enlightened know that there are no others…there is only the Self. In this way, the enlightened care for “others” just as much as the Self. The enlightened know that to help others is to help the Self. To love others is to love the Self. Continue reading If I am detached, won’t I become a selfish entity…uncaring about others?
As long as you are setting conditions on Awakening or Enlightenment, it will not happen. What you are saying are really conflicting statements. “I’d like to Awaken, but…”, as soon as there is a “but” in there…what you are really saying is I don’t want to Awaken. You are saying – I have these attachments and I don’t want to let go. What if letting go was the only way to Awaken?
Your effort to remain what you are is what limits you. Also, the unknown is often scary for people, but there can be no assurances given. You have to be willing to take the chance…come what may. Otherwise, fear will always stop you at the edge of the cliff…unwilling to jump into the void. Continue reading I’d like to Awaken, but I don’t want to lose my interests or friends.