Do you condemn all negative emotions?

No, I do not condemn all or even any negative emotions.  Negative emotions are part of the play of life and I do not condemn anything in it.  To condemn something means there is a “me” that disapproves of something else.  There is no “me”…only the Self, so to condemn anything is Self-condemnation…and why do that?  Like a lot of car insurance, reality is no-fault.  There is not anything to blame, find fault with, or condemn.

I have simply said we (as persons) act or react from our understanding and being.  If we understood differently, we would react differently.  Negative emotions (by and large) are based on ignorance and illusion, and with understanding you may find that some or all negative emotions no longer arise.

There is a process that happens (usually unconsciously/subconsciously) that results in reactions.  Something happens.  One or more of the senses perceive the happening.  There is discernment and recognition of the happening.  The happening then is self-referentialized to the body/mind/ego.  Judgments are made…is it good for me or bad for me.  Further thoughts and judgments are made based on the ideas, beliefs, and conditioning we hold…this is right or wrong (per societal rules, religious code, etc.).  Then there are more reactions – more thoughts and emotions are created.

If some idea, belief, or conditioning results in a negative emotion when a situation arises…it is not the emotion that is the issue…it is the idea, belief, or conditioning.  Conditioning is often not conscious (we don’t choose to follow the conditioning…we react in accordance with conditioning).  Ideas and beliefs can have a lot of unconscious or subconscious aspects as well.  Basically, there is ignorance and illusions of the mind…and as long as they remain uninvestigated (not brought to the conscious mind)…they remain intact in and in effect.  When wisdom and understanding dawns…ignorance is dispelled and illusions of the mind are seen through…then our actions and reacts change.  Again, this happens because we act from our understanding and being.

Typically, no one harms themselves willingly (with full knowledge).  The negative emotions are termed so because there is a subtle recognition that we are harming ourselves through them.  However, full understanding has not been realized…which would result in different reactions.  We are still reacting through uninvestigated (un-seen) ideas, beliefs, and conditioning.

Negative emotions are not a necessity or a requirement of life.  At the same time, if they occur, they must be fully experienced…allowed…accepted…and let go.  Denying, repressing, suppressing, or otherwise making an enemy of negative emotions is not the way.

Many people revel in their negative emotions.  You could say some are addicted to negative emotions.  Many people (perversely) feel good with negative emotions and it feels like a release.  We just don’t know how to deal with what-is any other way…again ignorance and illusion.

To repeat, I am not condemning negative emotions.  That is a value judgment in which there is disapproval of negative emotions happening at all.  I don’t care if you get angry.  If it makes you happy, so be it.  If anger arises for myself…I don’t disapprove of it and think this should not be.  I allow and accept what-is as it is, but I am curious about how it arose.  I look for its source and origination…to understand it.

Why do I do this, if I don’t condemn the negative emotions?  Simply because I understand that there are ideas, beliefs, and/or conditioning that is causing this reaction which is harmful…or at the very least not enjoyable.  Not only for me, but for others as well.  And so, I simply sit with the reaction (i.e. negative emotion in this case) and look at it deeply.  Curious to see what the roots are…what ideas, beliefs, and conditioning are the cause.

When you look at something deeply, ignorance is dispelled and understanding dawns.  With understanding (dispelled ignorance and seeing through illusions of the mind), our actions and reactions change.  Love, Truth, Harmony, and Unity is the way…and when there is anything counter to this…be it thought, emotion, etc. – this just means there is something to look at and understand more deeply.  Only in ignorance (knowing not what we do), do we go against or run counter to Love, Truth, Harmony, and Unity.  It is also quite fascinating and entertaining to see ignorance, false beliefs, and conditioning fall away.

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4 thoughts on “Do you condemn all negative emotions?”

  1. Hi Eric. How do you best recommend to investigate those unconscious beliefs/ideas/conditionings and to let go of them without any resistance?

    So far I feel I have seen and understood many of the mind’s illusions. I have tried investigating the illusionary “I” only to find that it does not exist. My thoughts, feelings, fears and my desires belong to no-one meaning there isn’t actually a person inside of me who own these fears and desires. At best there is a small disidenfication with mind after investigation it more and more, however feelings of hurt and humiliation still arise whenever somebody say something about the illusionary I. I know there isn’t actually somebody who feels hurt – the thoughts and feelings arise because of years long belief in this I. Sometimes the feelings and thoughts feels so overwhelming to the point where I “forget” there isn’t an I who really is hurt by them. Could it be that there still some belief in this “I?” I don’t know what to do to break this identification with the false I (funnily enough, the one who wants to break this identification is another thought too ha!), because I feel like I’ve done plenty of investigation and don’t know how to take it further. Logically, there is an understanding that “I” only exist in thoughts/beliefs/stories and in emotions but these thoughts and emotions only arise because there’s still a belief in this “I,” isn’t that so?

    I hope my questions are not too confusing. I’m asking because I have a presentation to do in my university class in front of 50+ people very soon and I just feel completely terrorized. I know there isn’t actually a person who these emotions belongs to, but the stories and fear have completely overtaking my body and unfortunalely making these past couple of days very.. unenjoyable.

    I would appricate some insight from you, thank you very much!

    1. Hi Zabina,

      “Could it be that there still some belief in this “I?”” – of course, you are trying to dismiss your deeper belief that you are this “I” with more shallow mental ideas and concepts that you are not this “I”. If you really realized you are not this “I”…what is there to fear? The thoughts and feelings do not arise because of years long belief in this “I”…but the continued belief in the “I”.

      Saying “my thoughts, feelings, fears and my desires belong to no-one” but they still arise is a sort of spiritual bypassing. It is a way to try to dismiss (separate yourself from…escape) the thoughts, feelings, fears, desires, etc. without actually looking at them and deeply understanding them.

      “feelings of hurt and humiliation still arise whenever somebody say something about the illusionary I” – if there was a deep recognition/realization that the “I” is illusory, then feelings of hurt and humiliation would not arise. It may even seem humorous. Some fictitious character is trying to hurt or humiliate a fictitious character.

      No, deep down…you identify with the body/mind/”I”…that is why you feel hurt or humiliated (it is an egoic reaction). What you really are can not be hurt or be diminished or lose anything. Feeling of lose (hurt, humiliation, etc.) is a sign of identification with it…an “I”.

      “I know there isn’t actually a person who these emotions belongs to, but the stories and fear have completely overtaking my body and unfortunalely making these past couple of days very.. unenjoyable.”

      That is trying to dismiss it. You don’t know…you think you know and you would like to believe it, but you don’t.

      Delve into the stories and fear. Where does it really come from? What are the thoughts, concepts, beliefs, etc. that are the basis of the stories and fear? Are they true? Do you know the future? What is the worst that can happen…is it really that bad? What is the best that can happen? What happens if you are just 100% devoted to the experience of now? Just some questions to start the inquiry.

      Inquire into the stories and fear. Look at the stories and fear deeply…understand them. Only in delving deep into it will understanding dawn. When ignorance is dispelled, you may not feel the same way anymore.

      1. Thank you for your response! I deeply appriciate the fact you took your time and gave me a thougtful reply .

        I’ve been thinking a lot about your response and try to connect it with where I am now and in many ways I can indeed agree with you especially this part: “of course, you are trying to dismiss your deeper belief that you are this “I” with more shallow mental ideas and concepts that you are not this “I”.”

        I do feel now that I’m kind of fooling myself into believing that I really got this (I’m not this I) but in a way this understanding only appears as another concept and does not actually resonate really with my being cause if it really did the hurt, humilations, fears etc would simply not be the response to other people’s opinions or whatever situation I may face.
        When I read your comment, I can definitely tell that I need to humble myself some more and really look inward and just to see what I am all about and questioning the validity of my beliefs and stories haha.

        It’s nice to have someone giving me more clarity over my current state, so thank you once again!

        1. Hi Zabina,

          “this understanding only appears as another concept and does not actually resonate really with my being”

          That is it…right there. It all comes down to what you really feel yourself to be.

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