No, I do not condemn all or even any negative emotions. Negative emotions are part of the play of life and I do not condemn anything in it. To condemn something means there is a “me” that disapproves of something else. There is no “me”…only the Self, so to condemn anything is Self-condemnation…and why do that? Like a lot of car insurance, reality is no-fault. There is not anything to blame, find fault with, or condemn.
I have simply said we (as persons) act or react from our understanding and being. If we understood differently, we would react differently. Negative emotions (by and large) are based on ignorance and illusion, and with understanding you may find that some or all negative emotions no longer arise.
There is a process that happens (usually unconsciously/subconsciously) that results in reactions. Something happens. One or more of the senses perceive the happening. There is discernment and recognition of the happening. The happening then is self-referentialized to the body/mind/ego. Judgments are made…is it good for me or bad for me. Further thoughts and judgments are made based on the ideas, beliefs, and conditioning we hold…this is right or wrong (per societal rules, religious code, etc.). Then there are more reactions – more thoughts and emotions are created.
If some idea, belief, or conditioning results in a negative emotion when a situation arises…it is not the emotion that is the issue…it is the idea, belief, or conditioning. Conditioning is often not conscious (we don’t choose to follow the conditioning…we react in accordance with conditioning). Ideas and beliefs can have a lot of unconscious or subconscious aspects as well. Basically, there is ignorance and illusions of the mind…and as long as they remain uninvestigated (not brought to the conscious mind)…they remain intact in and in effect. When wisdom and understanding dawns…ignorance is dispelled and illusions of the mind are seen through…then our actions and reacts change. Again, this happens because we act from our understanding and being.
Typically, no one harms themselves willingly (with full knowledge). The negative emotions are termed so because there is a subtle recognition that we are harming ourselves through them. However, full understanding has not been realized…which would result in different reactions. We are still reacting through uninvestigated (un-seen) ideas, beliefs, and conditioning.
Negative emotions are not a necessity or a requirement of life. At the same time, if they occur, they must be fully experienced…allowed…accepted…and let go. Denying, repressing, suppressing, or otherwise making an enemy of negative emotions is not the way.
Many people revel in their negative emotions. You could say some are addicted to negative emotions. Many people (perversely) feel good with negative emotions and it feels like a release. We just don’t know how to deal with what-is any other way…again ignorance and illusion.
To repeat, I am not condemning negative emotions. That is a value judgment in which there is disapproval of negative emotions happening at all. I don’t care if you get angry. If it makes you happy, so be it. If anger arises for myself…I don’t disapprove of it and think this should not be. I allow and accept what-is as it is, but I am curious about how it arose. I look for its source and origination…to understand it.
Why do I do this, if I don’t condemn the negative emotions? Simply because I understand that there are ideas, beliefs, and/or conditioning that is causing this reaction which is harmful…or at the very least not enjoyable. Not only for me, but for others as well. And so, I simply sit with the reaction (i.e. negative emotion in this case) and look at it deeply. Curious to see what the roots are…what ideas, beliefs, and conditioning are the cause.
When you look at something deeply, ignorance is dispelled and understanding dawns. With understanding (dispelled ignorance and seeing through illusions of the mind), our actions and reactions change. Love, Truth, Harmony, and Unity is the way…and when there is anything counter to this…be it thought, emotion, etc. – this just means there is something to look at and understand more deeply. Only in ignorance (knowing not what we do), do we go against or run counter to Love, Truth, Harmony, and Unity. It is also quite fascinating and entertaining to see ignorance, false beliefs, and conditioning fall away.