What does “when I woke up”…exactly mean?

I woke up in November 2005. I simply mean that a happening occurred…a realization. A kind of aha moment when the illusions of the mind are clearly and deeply seen through…in particular this idea of “me”. This is not just a mental realization, but undeniably through the whole being. I sometimes say it hits you to the core or in your bones. Continue reading What does “when I woke up”…exactly mean?

What is the importance of not being attached to things and people?

None.  No importance what so ever.  The ego is what is looking for “shoulds” and “should nots” and rank by importance and trying to do something (like – not being attached).

It is true that the enlightened are not attached to things and people.  When there is a seeing through the illusion of “me”, the illusion of attachment also falls away as it is founded upon an illusory “me”.  However, there is no such thing as “the importance of not being attached”.  There is no need to try to not be attached.  In fact, the enlightened don’t really think about attachment or detachment. Continue reading What is the importance of not being attached to things and people?

How can the world not exist? I just kicked a rock!

The world is an illusion, but even illusions exist.  I would never say that the world does not exist.  Illusions get a bad rap though.  Some people use the term “illusion” to put down the world.  Illusions are great things.  Movies are illusions.  Virtual reality games are illusions.  Dreams are illusions.  The game of life continues because the illusions are believed.

I don’t like using the terms real and not-real.  Are dreams real?  Many westerners would say no.  To many of the aboriginal people, dreams are real and sometimes more real than the world itself.  So during this post, please don’t add any kind of real versus not-real context to anything said.  Let us keep the topic to existing or not existing…and also illusions. Continue reading How can the world not exist? I just kicked a rock!

Would you say there is no doer and no choice?

Really, it does not matter if you call something choice or fate/scripted/preordained.  Either you can say you chose it all or you can say you chose none of it.  I find the “no choice” side tends to promote distancing and escapism.  Distancing and escapism is contrary to nonduality.  You are this and you can’t get away from it.  So I tend to speak from the choice side.  This tends to promote more intimacy and engagement with what-is.

Really either stance is fine, but the problem is when we say we chose something and other things just happen to us…that is duality.  We want to pick and choose…some things are my choice and some things are not my choice. Continue reading Would you say there is no doer and no choice?

Should I just stay as the Witness? The Self is the Witness…right?

There is no such thing as “the Witness”.  There is only awareness.  There is seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting, and smelling.  There is no seer, no hearer, no feeler, no taster, and no smeller.  At best, you might say there is witnessing, but there is no witness.

Saying you are the witness is a subtle way for the ego to sneak in through the back door.  The ego says, “I am the witness of my thoughts, feelings, experiences, etc.”  This is true…for the ego.  What you really are is “awareness-ing”…in which there is thinking, feeling, experiencing, etc.  There is no noun.  To use a noun – as in ‘I am a witness’ – is a way to have an object to identify with.  In reality, you are the witnessing itself without a who/witness. Continue reading Should I just stay as the Witness? The Self is the Witness…right?

Isn’t the Self unchanging?

Yes and no.  If you say the Self is unchanging, then whatever changes is not the Self and that would be duality.  The Self is all there is.  Of course, the Self has changing and unchanging aspects.

Many teachers and teachings point to the substratum behind all experience and that is unchanging…that which is behind all changes and the comings/goings of things. Continue reading Isn’t the Self unchanging?

How can we know that we are awakened?

Let us start off by saying that awakening is clearly seeing through the illusion of “me”…no longer identifying with the body/mind, ego, or “I”.  The personal “I” is simply a thought and never really existed.  There is a knowing…in the here and now…that identification is no longer happening (and there is a memory of having had such identification).  So there is a knowing or awareness that the illusion of “me” is not believed…that awakening occurred.  Awakening is simply a happening in a point in time…prior – the illusory “me” was believed; and after – the illusory “me” is not believed.  In this way there is a recognition of awakening. Continue reading How can we know that we are awakened?

Should I try not to identify myself with any of the roles that I play?

Don’t “try” not to identify…it is not a matter of trying not to identify.  In asking this, you are admitting you are already identified…and so you must accept this – not resist it.  Instead you need to clearly see you are not what you are identifying with…then you automatically cease identifying with it.  Only through delving into the identification, seeing it thoroughly, and understanding it can you realize the error in identifying with it and ever believing it was who you are.

The focus is not on “trying not to identify” but to clearly see and understand.  Ignorance only continues when uninvestigated.  So I am saying investigate the identification thoroughly.  Do this and you will find you no longer identify with whatever it is and you know exactly why it was in error to believe you were it.  I don’t want to create a practice of “trying not to identify”, so I am attempting to be very clear that you need to cease trying to do anything about it and just look at it deeply.  With understanding, things change on their own.  We see through the illusion and we cease to be fooled by it any longer. Continue reading Should I try not to identify myself with any of the roles that I play?

Does the Self have emotions or is it part of the body/mind experience?

Duality does not exist outside of the mind.  There is only the Self.  This question is already coming from a dualistic perspective – Self or body/mind.  The body/mind is within and not other than the Self.  So if you experience emotions…the Self experiences emotions.  You are not other than the Self.  As Alan Watts once said, “you are an aperture through which the universe is looking at and exploring itself.” Continue reading Does the Self have emotions or is it part of the body/mind experience?