I feel like I’m enlightened, but others don’t treat me any differently. Why?

Why would you be treated any differently if you are enlightened?  You will not suddenly have a glowing halo around your head.  Nor will light shine from your body.  Nor will people be able to feel by your mere presence how enlightened you are.  It is a myth that others will recognize your enlightenment and treat you any differently. Continue reading I feel like I’m enlightened, but others don’t treat me any differently. Why?

Are you saying that I shouldn’t really care about how things work out?

Not at all.  It is not about should or shouldn’t.  However, if there was a realization and seeing through the illusory “I” and the delusion of attachment falls away, then “you” might not be attached to how things turn out.  If you understood how changeable “fortune” can be, then you may not be attached to how things work out or label it as good or bad.  It is not about should or shouldn’t, it is about understanding and realization. Continue reading Are you saying that I shouldn’t really care about how things work out?

How can I actually use nondual philosophy in my every-day life?

You don’t.  It is not about trying to implement concepts and beliefs into life.  This question comes from the viewpoint of the ego or “me.”  How will this make “my” life better…how do “I” use this to get what “I” want?  Enlightenment and awakening is about seeing through the “me” and realizing the nondual nature of what-is.

Don’t use the pointers and concepts you learn by studying nondualism to create a philosophy you want to implement in life.  That is not how it works.  This is like hearing that the enlightened do not have attachments, so you go out and start practicing detachment in the hopes of gaining some of the benefits of enlightenment based on imitating the enlightened. Continue reading How can I actually use nondual philosophy in my every-day life?

Why are we here in the first place? How come there is suffering?

No reason really.  We are here to simply experience…to play is another way to put it.  There is suffering because challenges and antagonists are needed to make a good play (to make it more entertaining and fun).

There is no meaning or purpose to life beyond living it.  Any reasons or purposes given are mental fictions and imaginations we attribute to life.  When there is no thinking, you see no purpose or meaning…it just is as it is. Continue reading Why are we here in the first place? How come there is suffering?

Where are the ethics in nondualism?

Many nondual teachers don’t put much attention on ethics.  Unless asked…I often don’t talk about ethics either.  Usually, it is assumed you are already fairly ethical.  I don’t know of many people with an interest in nonduality who are not ethical, because nonduality is not the first stop of the spiritual journey for most people.  Often, people have been spiritual seekers for years before they encounter nondualism.  In my experience, spiritual seekers tend to have higher ethical standards than the rest of the population. Continue reading Where are the ethics in nondualism?

Where is compassion in nondualism?

Advaita / nondualism often gets heady and dry, but compassion is very much included.  Love brings togetherness in unification.  The Self is love.  Nisargadatta Maharaj said, “love says ‘I am everything.’ Wisdom says ‘I am nothing.’ Between the two, my life flows.”

With love, there is compassion.  Nondualism does not mean a homogeneity of experience….only that you realize it is not the experience of separate things.  So although it is Self-love and Self-compassion, it may be expressed through acts done for an “other” person.  There can be a recognition of that is a dog, that is a tree, that is my friend, etc.; and yet still not be fooled into thinking those are separate others.  There is only the Self. Continue reading Where is compassion in nondualism?

Can you really speak about nondualism? Isn’t that duality?

In speaking about nonduality, you can only point at it using words.  Words are inherently dualistic.  Chair only has meaning because there are things that are not chairs.  But when I say “nonduality”, I mean that which does not have an other.

Now, you can logically and linguistically say there is duality and nonduality – as if they are opposed and that it is dualistic.  Quite right.  But that use of the term “nonduality” would not really be nonduality.  That would be pointing at something with an other or opposing view.  If you focus too much on the words and take them literally, then you will not understand what is being pointed to. Continue reading Can you really speak about nondualism? Isn’t that duality?

What is mindfulness and does memory play a role in it?

Mindfulness is mostly just being present.  Mindfulness is being 100% devoted to the experience of this moment…and not resisting or denying anything in the moment.  For example, eating with mindfulness is “just eating”.  Not judging, labeling, or otherwise reflectively thinking about the experience.  Eating with mindfulness is seeing the food that you are eating, smelling the aroma of the food, feeling the texture of the food in the mouth, experiencing the taste of the food, hearing the sound of eating the food, etc.  Totally accepting the experience as it is…not wanting it to be other than what it is…with curiosity and kindness. Continue reading What is mindfulness and does memory play a role in it?

How do we stop seeking?

If you want seeking to cease, then don’t focus on the seeking.  The seeking is just the greenery, and so go to the root.  Inquire into the “me” that is seeking…the “me” who wants to stop seeking.  What is this “me”? Continue reading How do we stop seeking?

What does “when I woke up”…exactly mean?

I woke up in November 2005. I simply mean that a happening occurred…a realization. A kind of aha moment when the illusions of the mind are clearly and deeply seen through…in particular this idea of “me”. This is not just a mental realization, but undeniably through the whole being. I sometimes say it hits you to the core or in your bones. Continue reading What does “when I woke up”…exactly mean?